During a conversation with a work colleague, she expressed that one of our mutual friends had a “nice personality”, I agreed with her as I have often thought the same of this friend. I started to think about this deeply and began wondering what is a “nice personality” and how does someone get a “nice personality”? The question that came to my mind whilst I was having these thoughts was; “is a person gifted with a nice personality or can one develop a nice personality”, to help myself explore this further I tried to define the concept of one’s personality to myself and also started to think about people that I would say have a nice personality. I then posed the question to myself as to what it is about these people that makes their personality nice?
I decided to enlist the help of my very good friend George Coxon and I would like to acknowledge my thanks to George. George loves mind-maps and I am using his wonderful mind-map to explore this further.
George’s 7 personality points:
- It’s the heart of the person and it comes from the heart.
- It’s based on inheritance, experiences, confidence, disposition, luck.
- We develop a personality based on life events; how adaptive we are; the way that we talk to ourselves.
- Being reflective and receptive are essential to personality development.
- The assumption and misconception is the more prominent and outward going/gregarious the bigger your personality!
- Words associated with personality; character, disorder, attraction, how we react to pressure.
- Characteristics of a great personality; people who I admire, who inspire or impress me. The sum of a person’s psychological, emotional and social being. Nature or nature?
George’s 7 points aligned quite closely to the conclusions that I had come to myself; which was that, in my opinion , a good personality is a combination of factors, which for me include:
Authenticity – how sincere, genuine and honest a person.
Respect – how they treat others and themselves.
Self-awareness – how one assess themselves, responds and adapts to feedback and understands the impact they have on others.
Like George, I believe that a personality is developed through life experiences, personal characteristics and willingness to reflect and adjust.
As for people who I think have a nice personality, I didn’t want to embarrass any of my close friends, family and work colleagues so will only name a few public figures, Jacinda Arden, Nicola Adams, Dina Asher-Smith and Monty Don.