Today I am writing about small things you can do to develop a positive attitude and how you choose to respond to situations.
We hear and read all the time that smiling and laughing is good for us, how many muscles it takes to frown versus those it takes to smile, how being positive is beneficial for our mental health, etc. So shouldn’t we all be doing it all the time? At a conference I recently attended, the keynote speaker was talking about mental health and wellbeing, he suggested that the next time someone asks you how you are; try saying boldly with a smile on your face “I’m feeling energised and inspired”. We all laughed, including me, why did we laugh? I reflected on this a bit more and then decided I would try it. So I regularly try and do this, but I don’t find it easy even though I consider myself to be a person with a positive attitude. I started to wonder, is it because I am not feeling happy and inspired when someone asks me how I am or is it because I am worried about how people will react when I say it? I have come to the conclusion that it is all about how I am feeling at the time.
We all know a person who has a negative outlook on life or struggles to see the positives in given situations. That person whom you avoid spending too much time with because they leave you feeling negative and drained. Perhaps you feel like you are that person – bad things happen to you and so you find it difficult to take a positive approach. You feel like you have no control and things just happen, others are lucky, you get all the bad stuff. In contrast, when you spend time with a positive or happy person you can often find yourself feeling energised and inspired. You want to be around that person all the time, they give you a buzz. Maybe you are the person that everyone gravitates towards because you give off positive energy.
Whether you believe it or not, you have a choice, a choice about how you allow daily occurrences to impact on you, your day, your world. You can’t stop positive or negative things happening, but you can choose the way you respond to them and the way you allow them to affect you. When you devote more time to focusing on the positive aspects surrounding you and your life you can achieve more.
In order to develop positive attitude we have to change habits. Even the little things we do routinely can subtly have a negative impact. For example, when someone asks – how is work? How often do we say, “I’m feeling a bit stressed”, “today was such a bad day”? Those are all minor habits that contribute towards an overall outlook.
If you’re interested in changing those habits and trying to become or stay positive, here are my 3 small tips that could help:
Fill your mind with positivity
When you fill your mind and your life with positivity there is no room for negative thoughts and feelings. Before you go to bed at night, think about at least one positive thing that happened today, big or small. When you wake up in the morning think about something you are looking forward to in the day. Throughout the day notice every small thing, things that can often be dismissed because we take them for-granted or just don’t notice them. I opened the tap and hot water came out, I’m looking forward to my bus journey so I can read my book. Mary made me a cup of tea today.
In every experience there is something positive
Get yourself into the habit of taking positives from challenging experiences. Try not to immediately go into negative mode when something happens, this is really difficult, but keep trying to do it. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. I came home from work today, opened the post and received a parking ticket from one of those automated cameras. If I pay the fine today its 50% cheaper, I learned not to use that parking area again, they won’t catch me next time. Parking fines in local authority areas help to keep social care funded.
Think positive, act positive
When you think and act positive, you attract positivity, you stop noticing the negative things and if you do notice them, they feel small and insignificant because you feel so positive you are not going to let anything knock you back. You walk around confidently, smiling at cheerful. You become a person who brings smiles to peoples faces, a person that everyone is happy to be around.
Be the one to make someone smile today.